Whom One Should Not Marry No Matter What?

Everyone who dates finds themselves asking a question. Should we take our relationship to the next level?

But you should also ask yourself another question, am I marrying the one?

Will I have a ‘happily ever after’?

There are some things you might already know of. And there are things you can compromise on or manage with.

But some things can’t be compromised, like you shouldn’t marry someone you don’t love, someone who has a history of cheating on their exes, or who doesn’t respect your vision for the future.

whom One should not marry no matter what?

you are not too sure about them

Only marry someone who you are sure about. You will know in your gut if you love them. But if your heart says otherwise, do not consider marrying them as love is and will be the soul of your marriage.

What if they cheat on you too?

Once you know they have cheated more than once, they might give you reasons for each time they did so. But there are no excuses for cheating.

Remember, once a cheater is always a cheater. Giving them many chances can prove to be a bad idea.

different lifestyle choices

Don’t marry someone who has different lifestyle choices than you. Suppose you are a fitness freak and your partner is a binge eater; it might create some problems.

When two people’s choices don’t match, conflicts are more likely.  

What about having kids?

Oh, you want kids in the future? If your partner doesn’t want one, then reconsider your decision to marry them. Things like this don’t change after marriage.

Please don’t dwell on the futile belief that they will change. Discuss this with your partner before getting married to them.

Different visions for the future

You must have that future dream to open that baker or to go on a world tour. It might even be residing in the countryside forever.

One might even want to work their whole life. But it’s not a good sign if your partner doesn’t respect your plans.

They might have different plans that will prevent you from fulfilling your, then marriage might not be a good option. Find someone who aligns with your vision for the future.

Abuses you

This might be mentioned late but hold much importance. Abuse might be emotional initially, like not validating your feelings too often.

Is verbal abuse there too? Ridicules you, belittles, or even humiliates you in public or private. It is not going to look good in the future.

And abuse of any type grows into physical abuse too in the future. And, yes, you don’t want to marry an abuser or a narcissist.

Just there for your money

You shouldn’t marry a gold-digger. Suppose someone is with you because you can provide financial stability, or you are enabling them to live lavishly.

But what if you don’t have the money tomorrow? Will they still be there with you to help you in hard times?

If you shake your head in a no, then they are not “the one.”  Decision to get married can be a big step in your life, so think carefully.

Thinks Only You Should Do Everything

Suppose you believe in equality in your married life, like splitting the bills and dividing the chores. But if your partner thinks marriage is one of you working and doing all the work, it can contradict your idea of marriage. So it should be a big no-no.

Your friends and family don’t go along with them

If your close ones have bad feelings about your partner, you should reconsider marrying them. Your family may have reasons to dislike them.

Take the step of marriage by carefully analyzing everything and considering your close ones’ views.

Conclusion

You’ll probably have a strong gut feeling when you find the one. But if you have doubts, reconsider marrying them.

Make all the necessary conversations with your loved ones. And think about all the shortcomings they have and all the things that made you fall for them. Are shortcomings adjustable?

If not, then remember marriage is a big step. There is going back, but not fairytale-like. Be sure to walk down the right path.

Keep in mind that there is more to marriage than love. Find a compatible partner in all the crucial aspects, be it finances, kids, or the vision for the future.