The Marriage Lesson That I Learned Too Late

Marriage can be a complicated journey filled with love, laughter, and sorrows. Every relationship has its up and down phases. There is so much to learn in this beautiful journey called marriage.

Most marriages are ‘happily ever after‘ when looked at from the outside.

But is it so?

Is it all happy moments?

I’m afraid I have to disagree. Only when we look closely at a couple, we see how irritated they get even on small things.

Is it because they stopped loving each other?

No. It’s because they are learning to fit into each other lives. I, too, have learned so many lessons in my marital journey, some sooner and some too late. We often take time to learn some things, but it’s better to be late than never.

I will tell you the marriage lesson I learned too late in this article. Maybe some of you can even relate to it. .

But how can you relate to my marriage lessons? I will discuss it with you all because most marriages go through similar problems and situations.

This article will help you avoid these pitfalls in your marriage.

two Marriage Lesson That I Learned Too Late

The importance of understanding while communicating with each other

For many years in my marriage, I thought communicating with my partner would solve all our problems, but it’s not entirely true.

You can communicate all you want with your partner, but if they need help understanding your view, it’s all in vain.

We all have heard people say communication is the key to any relationship. But is it all?

Do you need only communication to maintain a healthy relationship?

I beg to differ. I have learned this crucial lesson in my marriage life: a better understanding of your partner’s point will help you have healthy conversations.

In the initial years of my marriage, my partner and I communicated on every possible topic but still had so many issues with others.

Later in my life, I realized that we were communicating for just the sake of listening. We were not paying enough attention to the cause of disputes.

We needed to understand where was the other partner coming from. It became a never-ending cycle of communicating and again fighting for the same damn thing.

It was so confusing and frustrating that we stopped talking to each other.

Of course, not talking was not our desired solution, but it suppressed the problem for some time.

Later as we grew together, we understood that only communication was not enough to solve any problem.

We have to understand each other perspectives and then find a permanent solution to a particular problem.

I thought the combination of love and communication was all you need, but I was wrong.

Communicating to understand each other’s point of view is very important for a happy marriage.

Flexibility and compromise in a marriage

Another marriage lesson I learned too late is the power of flexibility. Making little compromises is the key to blending smoothly into each other’s life.

In the early stages of my marriage, I thought with a win-lose mentality to argue to prove my point and protect my ego.

But soon, I understood that it destroyed the harmony of my marriage.

Acting according to each other sometimes does not harm anyone. Compromise is not a sign of weakness; it shows how much you respect and value your partner.

When you are flexible to adjust according to each other, it creates more trust in the marriage.

Initially, I needed help to compromise on some grounds. But then I understood how essential things are for my partner.

I learned that compromising does not mean sacrificing your beliefs but finding appropriate solutions to different needs.

Embracing compromising and flexibility can lead to happy marriage life, making both partners feel heard and loved.

Conclusion

Marriage is a journey of transformation and growth. It teaches us valuable life lessons, increasing with years of experience.

In my martial journey, I have learned understanding, compassion, and compromising are crucial aspects of a healthy married life.

It is essential to consider your partner’s emotions. I may have learned some lessons late than I had expected, but they have changed how I approach my marriage.

By sharing these personal lessons I learned in my marriage, I hope you all learn and reflect on your problems and solve them with utmost care.

We can all embrace these valuable lessons of commitment and build strong and healthy marriages.